Joyful Ruins

Discovering joy in the hard places


Dear younger me, the Spark is Overrated

Dear Younger me,

Despite the numerous times I told my single self, relationships are not like the movies, they are not rom coms, somehow, that hope for something magical has never gone away.

I found this on a website recently, “Marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible, as it is about committing to someone despite difficulties and differences.”

Honestly, I thought it was about having that spark, finding someone you can’t take your eyes off of, but in reality, you’re simply looking for a dear friend who shares your values. They are not perfect, they will do small things that annoy you. Basically, it’s not like you’ll be 100 percent madly in love , but that’s not the point.

Marriage is an example of Christ’s love for us because it’s not easy. It’s 2 sinners giving each other grace and loving one another unconditionally.

Yes, the rom com, can’t eat-can’t sleep sounds exciting, but I think Christ’s version of marriage is much more powerful and beautiful.



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An obsessive journaler who loves meeting others along their journey and giving them a hand to hold through pieces of writing. I write about the heartbreaks of life and the joys, the ups and downs, and I often learn my greatest lessons and miracles from nature.

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